Three Signals You Are Misleading Yourself
Download MP3Most people assume that catching themselves in a self-deception will feel obvious. It rarely does. Brian walks through three concrete signals that indicate your internal explanation is functioning as a shield rather than a search for truth, and each one is specific enough to notice in real time if you know what to look for. The first is speed. A response that arrives before the question is even fi
Most people assume that catching themselves in a self-deception will feel obvious. It rarely does. Brian walks through three concrete signals that indicate your internal explanation is functioning as a shield rather than a search for truth, and each one is specific enough to notice in real time if you know what to look for.
The first is speed. A response that arrives before the question is even finished is almost always pre-scripted, which means it has not been examined. The second is direction. When your explanation consistently points outward, at other people, circumstances, or bad timing, that outward orientation is doing the work of protecting something inward. The third is relief. If telling yourself a story about a situation immediately dissolves the discomfort, the story is functioning as a bandage rather than a diagnostic tool. Genuine reflection does not feel like relief right away.
- Why suspiciously fast answers are a red flag in internal dialogue
- How blame and externalization function as misdirection rather than analysis
- The relief signal and why comfort after explanation can indicate avoidance
- The difference between a default response and an unexamined one
- How these patterns erode agency over time by surrendering it to circumstances
- What the awareness phase of the ARAA sequence is actually designed to collect
Understanding these signals does not require you to judge yourself for having them. It requires you to notice them, which is the entire point of the awareness phase.
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Host and Founder of A Mason's Work - a podcast designed to help you use symbolism to grow. He's been working in the craft for over a decade and served as WM, trustee, and sat in every appointed chair in a lodge - at least once :D
