Teach a Man to Fish: Solving Work & Relationships
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Dive into the pitfalls of 'giving work' versus 'genuinely helping' others. This episode unpacks how taking charge of your tasks can foster healthier relationships, avoid suffering, and eliminate the need for external validation. Tune in for a critical take on support, superiority complexes, and self-reflection for personal growth.
Key Points
• Teaching vs. giving solutions
• Damaging relationships by imposition
• The drive for external validation
• Mindful help is compassionate
• Own your tasks, respect theirs
Best Quotes
00:15 - 00:27
• "The idea here conceptually, that you can teach somebody how to fend for themselves, and that's gonna be a whole lot more productive than continuing to give them the answer to their problems."
00:50 - N/A
• "The moment you find in your travels that you say words like you should or why doesn't, why don't you, or why doesn't he, or why don't they, or why doesn't she? When you're doing any of that stuff, you are trying to give other people work."
02:14 - 02:22
• "That is a form of seeking external validation. It's a form of trying to prove that you were awesome all along."
02:31 - 02:34
• "The best kind of help and support is genuine help and support."
03:04 - 03:08
• "You can't take it from them and you can't give it to them. That's their work and it's their business."
(Generated by Podcast Show Notes at podcastshownotes.ai)
Dive into the pitfalls of 'giving work' versus 'genuinely helping' others. This episode unpacks how taking charge of your tasks can foster healthier relationships, avoid suffering, and eliminate the need for external validation. Tune in for a critical take on support, superiority complexes, and self-reflection for personal growth.
Key Points
• Teaching vs. giving solutions
• Damaging relationships by imposition
• The drive for external validation
• Mindful help is compassionate
• Own your tasks, respect theirs
Best Quotes
00:15 - 00:27
• "The idea here conceptually, that you can teach somebody how to fend for themselves, and that's gonna be a whole lot more productive than continuing to give them the answer to their problems."
00:50 - N/A
• "The moment you find in your travels that you say words like you should or why doesn't, why don't you, or why doesn't he, or why don't they, or why doesn't she? When you're doing any of that stuff, you are trying to give other people work."
02:14 - 02:22
• "That is a form of seeking external validation. It's a form of trying to prove that you were awesome all along."
02:31 - 02:34
• "The best kind of help and support is genuine help and support."
03:04 - 03:08
• "You can't take it from them and you can't give it to them. That's their work and it's their business."
(Generated by Podcast Show Notes at podcastshownotes.ai)
Creators and Guests
Host
Brian Mattocks
Host and Founder of A Mason's Work - a podcast designed to help you use symbolism to grow. He's been working in the craft for over a decade and served as WM, trustee, and sat in every appointed chair in a lodge - at least once :D
